Hadis Shareef: The Prophet Salla Allahu ta’ala’alayhi wa sallam said: A believer loves for others what he loves for himself. He said: He who loves God and the hereafter, let him honour his guests. He said: He who believes in God and the hereafter shall honour his neighbour. He said: He who believes in God and the hereafter should utter good words or remain silent. He said: He who is a perfect believer is best in conduct. He said: When you see a believer silent and grave, come close to him as he is full of wisdom. He said: He who is pleased with virtues and displeased with sins is a believer. He said: No believer shall look to his brother Muslim in such a way that gives trouble to his mind. He said: It is unlawful for a Muslim to threaten another Muslim with fear. he said: If two companions consult with each other with trust of God, it is not lawful for one of them to disclose the secrets of another.
Good conduct comprises the following qualities – shame, to consider calamity as little, to wish good of all, truthfulness, little talk, much divine service, little shortcomings, gravity, patience, contentment, kindness, abstaining from begging, curse, rebuke, back-biting, hatred, miserliness, haughtiness and pride, to love for God and hate for God.
These qualities are called good conduct. The sage Eusof b-Ashat Radi Allahu anhu said: There are ten qualities of good conduct not to break promise, to do justice, not to take revenge, to recognise evil as sin, not to raise excuse, to bear the harms of others, to restrain passion, to know one’s own faults from seeing the faults of others, to come to every one with smiling face and to talk with humility with others.
SOME EXAMPLES OF GOOD CONDUCT
(1) The Holy Prophet Salla Allahu ta’ala’alayhi wa sallam was once walking with Hazrat Anas Radi Allahu anhu and met with a desert Arab with a thick cloth on his body. The desert Arab threw the cloth round the neck of the Prophet Salla Allahu ta’ala’alayhi wa sallam and began to drag him with force. Hazrat Anas Radi Allahu anhu said: As an effect of this forced dragging, spots of the cloth fell upon his neck. The desert Arab said: 0 Muhammad, give me something of the wealth you have got from God. The Prophet Salla Allahu ta’ala’alayhi wa sallam smilingly looked at him and ordered something to be given to him.
(2) At another time when the Quraish was giving the Prophet Salla Allahu ta’ala’alayhi wa sallam trouble in the Battle of Uhud and oppressing him, he said: 0 God, forgive my people, because they are ignorant. Then God revealed this verse: You are upon sublime character-68 :4.
(3) Once the sage Ibrahim-b-Adham Radi Allahu anhu was travelling through a desert. On the way he met a soldier who asked him: Are you a slave? He said: Yes, I am a slave The soldier said: Can you tell me where is locality here? He pointed out ;o the grave. The soldier said: I am seeking locality. He said: Graveyard is the place of habitation. The soldier was engaged at this, bound him with a chain and whipped him on his back and took him to a town. The disciples of Ibrahim came to him and the soldier told them about him. They said: His name is Ibrahim-b-Adham Radi Allahu anhu and he is the friend of God. Then the soldier fell at his feet and begged pardon from him. On being asked by the people, he said: When the soldier was beating him with stick, I prayed for him paradise. They asked: Why did you pray paradise for him though he oppressed you? He said: I know that I will get rewards in lieu of his oppression. I don’t like that one should remain a sinner for me for whom I got rewards.
(4) Once a man invited the sage Abu Osman Hariri Radi Allahu anhu and his object was to examine him. When the sage went to his door, he said: Now there is nothing for food. On hearing this, Abu Osman Radi Allahu anhu went away. When he went to some distance, the host called him again. When he came again, he said: Return. Then he returned. He called Abu Osman Radi Allahu anhu for the third time and the latter also came to him. He said: You have not come in time for food. Then he returned. When he called Abu Osman Radi Allahu anhu for the fourth time, the sage came to him and this time also he did not give him food. When he was going, the man feel upon his feet and said with folded hands: I have done it only to examine you. How good is your conduct! The sage said: You have found in me the conduct of a dog. If a dog is called for food, it comes on call and flees away when driven away.
(5) Once the sage was passing by a bylane when somebody threw some refuges on his head. He removed the refuges from his body and prostrated on the ground by way of gratefulness but didnot take retaliation. He said: If one is fit for Hell, will it not be a cause of gratefulness if refuges only are thrown on him?
(6) Once the sage Sahal Tastari Radi Allahu anhu was asked about good conduct. he said: The lowest good conduct is to bear with patience the troubles given by others, not to take revenge, to show kindness on the oppressor, to ask forgiveness for him and to be kind to him.
(7) The sage Ahnaf-b-Qais Radi Allahu anhu was once asked: From whom have you learnt patience? He said: From Qais-b-Asem Radi Allahu anhu. He was again asked: How did he learn patience? He said: He was once seated in his house when a black female slave was coming to him with a cup of hot roasted meat. Suddenly the cup fell from her hand and fell on the head of his child who died as a result. The female slave was greatly fearful of her master who said to her: You have got no fear. Go, you are free for the sake of God. It was narrated that when the little boys saw the saint Owais Qarni Radi Allahu anhu, they used to throw pebbles at him as they thought that he was a mad man. He used to say to them: 0 dear children, if you are to throw pebbles at all, throw small pebbles at me, so that no blood can come out. If blood comes out, my ablution may break.
by Imam Muhammad Al Ghazali Radi Allahu anhu