Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasized for him to get married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.
However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say “she’s not the one!” The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing. (Which was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious and practicing.
On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other question (as one would expect). The young man, being a gentleman that, he was allowed, young lady to ask first.Young girl asked the young man so many questions. She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his time pass, his experiences, his shoe size and his likes and dislikes. Basically everything!
And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring and politely with a smile. Young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man do you have any questions?
Young man said, yes, only have 3 questions…
Young girl thought, wow, only 3 questions okay, go ahead and shoot.
Young man’s first question was,
(1) Who do you love the most in the world, someone who’s love nothing would ever overcome?
She said, this is an easy question!
.Answer to your question is
Young man smiled and asked second question,
(2) You said that you read a lot of Qur’an, could you tell me which Surahs you know the meaning of?
Hearing this she went red and embarrassed and said I do not know the meaning of any yet, but I am hoping to soon
The third question the young man asked, was
(3) I have been approached for my hand in marriage, by girls that are lot more prettier than you, why should I marry you?
Hearing this, the young girl was outraged, she stormed off to her parents with fury and said I do not want to marry this man he is insulting my beauty and intelligence.
And the young man and his parents were once again, left without an agreement of marriage. This time, the young man’s parents were really angry and said what did you do to anger that young girl, the family was so nice and pleasant, and they were religious like you wanted.
What did you ask the girl? Tell us!
Young man said, firstly I asked her,
who do you love the most?
She said, her mother. The parents said so, what is wrong with that?
Young man said, “no one, is Muslim, until he loves Allah Almighty and his Messenger Salelahu Alaiwasalaam more than anyone else in the world.
If a woman loves Allah Almighty and Holy Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) more than anyone, she will love me and respect me and stay faithful to me, because of that love and fear for Allah Almighty. And we can share this love, because this love is greater than lust for beauty.
Young man said, then I asked, you read a lot of Holy Qur’an, can you tell me the meaning of any Surah?
And she said no. because I haven’t had time yet. So I remembered the saying of Imam Shafi’i, “All humans are dead except those who have knowledge … And all those who have knowledge are asleep, except those who do good deeds .. And those who do good are deceived, except those who are sincere … And those who are sincere are always in a state of worry (for others).”
She has lived 20 years on this earth and not found any time, to seek knowledge,
why would I marry a woman, who does not know her rights and responsibilities and what will she teach my children, except how to be negligent, because the woman is the Madrasah (school) and the best of teachers. And a woman, who has no time for Allah Almighty, will not have time for her husband.
The third question I asked her was, that a lot of girls, more prettier than her, had approached me for marriage, why should I choose her? That is why she stormed off, getting angry.
Young man’s parents said that is a horrible thing to say, why would you do such a thing; we are going back there to apologize. Young man said. I said this on purpose,
Holy Prophet Muhammad Salelahu Alaiwasalaam said
“Do not get angry, do not get angry, do not get angry”
. repeatedly when asked how to become pious, because i
S, marriage is based on :
Knowledge not looks,
Practice not preaching,
Forgiveness not anger,
Spiritual love not lust and compromise!
One should look for a person who
(1)Has love for Allah Almighty and his Messenger
(2) Has knowledge of the deen (religion), and can act upon it
(3) can control her anger and another important and crucial factor that she be
(4) And it goes both ways, so women seeking a man, should look for the same things. willing to compromise. May Allah Almighty make every marriage a success and let us create Love for Allah and his Messenger Salelahu Alaiwasalaam
Holy Prophet Muhammad Salelahu Alaiwasalaam
There is no better structure founded in Islam other than marriage.
May ALLAH accept our good deeds, Forgive our sins, and purify our hearts to gain success in this world and the hereafter !
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