VISITING THE GRAVE OF THE PROPHET

Visiting the grave is part of the Sunnah and is both excellent and desirable. Hazrat Ibn Umar (radi Allahu anhu) said that the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, “My intercession is assured for all who visit me.” (at-Tabarni) Hazrat Anas bin Malik (radi Allahu anhu) said that the Messenger of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, “Anyone who visits me in Madina for the sake of Allah is near to me and I will intercede for him on the Day of Rising.” (Al-Bayhaqi).

Imam Malik (radi Allahu anhu) disliked anyone saying “the tawaf of the visit,” or “we visited the grave of the Prophet,” because people normally use that for visits between themselves, and he did not like to put the Prophet on the same level as other people. He preferred a specific statement like “We greeted the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam). He did not dislike people saying, “We visited the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam).” (Ash-Shifa)

EARNING LIVELIHOOD

Almighty Allah sent provisions for men and animals along with their creation in this world. But for His infinite mercy, we would not have at all breathed for a single moment. The Almighty Providence placed everything in this world, which can supply food to animals for their upkeep. The Holy Quraan says: “He provides you from where you do not know.” (65:3)

DIGNITY OF MANUAL LABOUR

All the blessed Prophets of Allah (alaihimus salaam) worked with their own hands for livelihood, because there is no better food than that acquired by one’s manual labour.

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Whoso gives alms of a handful of dates from lawful earnings, verily Allah accepts it with great dignity. Then, He fosters it for its owner just as one of you fosters his chickens, till they become huge like mountains. (Agreed)

Sayyiduna Rafe’ Bin Khadij (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Prophet of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Price of a dog is impure, earning of a prostitute is impure, and earning of a cupper is impure. (Muslim)

Sayyiduna Jaabir (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Allah’s Messenger (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: No flesh, which has grown out of unlawful things, has got better claim to Hell Fire.(Darimi) This means that the flesh nourished by unlawful food shall enter Paradise after suffering in Hell for sometime. It does not mean that it will never be able to enter Paradise.

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Apostle of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Whoso seeks the world in a lawful manner abstaining from begging and striving for his family and being sympathetic to his neighbour, he will meet the Almighty Allah (Azzawajal) on the Resurrection Day while his face will be like the moon in full-moon lit night, and whoso seeks the world in a lawful manner, seeking wealth boastfully out of show, he will meet the Almighty Allah (Azzwajal) while He would be wrathful to him. (Bay’haqi)

BACKBITING

The Holy Quraan says: And spy not, neither backbite one another. Would one of you love to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You abhor that (so abhor the other)! And keep your duty to Allah. Lo! Allah is Relenting, Merciful. (49:12)

Almighty Allah says: Woe to every slanderer and backbiter. (104:1) Backbiting is certainly one of the actions Islam forbids. Its effect on individuals and communities is all there to see. It creates ill feelings and mistrust. Moreover, it betrays a cowardly attitude, as the backbiter takes the opportunity of the absence of another person in order to speak ill of him, giving other people a bad picture of him. Had he been speaking the truth, he would not have chosen to speak of him in such terms when he is away. He actually acknowledges that he does not have the courage to face him with similar statements. The evils of backbiting and its effects on the society are well-known to everyone.

Sayyiduna Hudayfa (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Holy Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: A Qattat will not enter Paradise. (Bukhari) A Qattat is a person who conveys information from one person to another with the intention of causing harm and enmity between them.

Sayyiduna Abu Sa’eed (radi Allahu anhu) and Sayyiduna Jaabir (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Backbiting is worse than adultery”. The companions of the Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) wished to know how backbiting is worse than adultery. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: A man commits adultery and then submits his repentance to Allah who accepts it. But the backbiter will not attain salvation unless the person against whom he has committed the crime of backbiting forgives him. (Bay’haqi)

Sayyiduna Abdur Rahman Bin Ghenam (radi Allahu anhu) and Sayyidah Asma Bint Yazid (radi Allahu anha) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Those are the virtuous servants of Allah seeing whom one remembers Allah, and those are the bad servants of Allah who indulge in backbiting and cause a separation between friends and attempt to involve an innocent man into hardships. (Bay’haqi)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Do you know what is backbiting? The companions said: Allah and His Messenger (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) know better. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Backbiting is when you speak of your brother with an attribute, which he may dislike. A companion asked: If my brother possesses that demerit? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: If he has got the demerit, which you mention in his absence, it will be treated as backbiting. If he does not possess that what you mention about him, it will be treated as allegation. (Muslim)

Sayyiduna Anas (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Allah’s Messenger (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The compensation for backbiting is that the backbiter should invoke Allah for the forgiveness of the person against whom he has spoken ill. (Bay’haqi)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that when Sayyiduna Ma’ez Aslami (radi Allahu anhu) was stoned to death after confessing the crime of adultery, a man said to the other: See him, Allah had kept his sin secret but his conscience did not leave him, and hence, he is stoned to death like a dog. Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) heard their conversation and kept silent. When they advanced a few steps, they found a dead donkey with stretched limbs. The Beloved Habeeb (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said to those persons: Go and eat the flesh of that donkey. They said: How can we eat it, O Apostle of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The crime that you have committed by speaking ill of your brother is worse than eating the carrion. By Him in Who holds my life, Ma’ez (radi Allahu anhu) is diving into the Rivers of Paradise. (Abu Da’ood)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Holy Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: A believer is the mirror of another believer and his brother. He should protect his belongings from destruction and save him against backbiting. (Tirmidi)

Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibne-Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) reported once Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) went through the grave yards of Madina and heard the voices of two humans who were being tortured in their graves. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: They are being punished, but they are not being punished because of a major sin, yet their sins are great: One of them used not to save himself from being soiled with the urine, and the other used to go about with calumnies. Then, the merciful Prophet of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) asked for a green palm tree leaf and split it into two pieces and placed one piece on each grave, saying:  I hope that their punishment may be abated as long as these pieces of the leaf are not dried. (Bukhari)

However, there are cases when pointing out the faults of another person is permissible. Suppose that people come to you to ask for information about a man you know intimately. They tell you that he has proposed to marry their daughter, or to go into business partnership with them. In such a case, you have to give them all the information, which is likely to influence their decision one way or the other. You must point out the faults you know of that person in order to make an honest testimony. For example, if you know him to be stingy or hot-tempered or negligent of his family duties, you must tell them of all that because these are qualities which influence a decision on accepting a proposal of marriage. If you know from your long association with that person, that, for example, he had entered into a business partnership with others and the business collapsed and there was some suspicion about his honesty, or his handling of the affairs of the business, or that he did not have a sound business sense, you must tell that to the inquirers. In such cases, you are not indulging in backbiting; you are simply acting as a witness who must give an honest testimony.

There are, however, certain things to take into account when you are called upon to give such information. The first is that you give it only to the people who need it. You must not publicize it. The second is that you give only the information, which is necessary. Thirdly, you must be very objective. You must not allow your own prejudice to either exaggerate or make little of what you know. Fourthly, you should give the information in the least offensive way. You should use the words that give a clear idea of the man and his standing and that are not too personal. That is not backbiting by any measure.

TRUTHFULNESS

Islam has laid much stress on abstaining from falsehood especially from telling a lie. Almighty Allah says: “O you who believe! Be afraid of Allah, and be with those who are true (in words and deeds). “(9:119)

The Holy Quraan enjoins: “And shun lying speech”. (22:30)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Whoever does not give up false statements (i.e. telling lies), and evil deeds, and speaking bad words to others, Allah is not in need of his (fasting) leaving his food and drink. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “The worst people in the Sight of Allah  on the Day of Resurrection will the double-faced people who appear to some people with one face and to other people with another face.” (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abdullah Bin Mas’ood (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Be steadfast as truthfulness leads to virtue and virtue leads to Paradise. And keep away from lie as it leads to evil doing and evil doing leads to Hell.

Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibne-Omar (radi Allahu anhuma) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “When a person tells a lie, his guardian Angels runs away from him to a distance of one mile.”

Sayyiduna Anas (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “If a person abstains from false talks, a house is built for him on the edge of Paradise and if a person gives up fighting, even if he is on a right stand, a house is built for him in the middle of Paradise and if a person cherishes good conduct, a house is built for him in the highest portion of Paradise.” (Tirmidi)

Sayyiduna Abu Bakr (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Keep away from false talk, as falsehood is against Imaan.” (Ahmad)

Sayyiduna Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Holy Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Truthfulness leads to righteousness, and righteousness leads to Paradise. And a man keeps on telling the truth until he becomes a truthful person. Falsehood leads to wickedness and evil doing, and wickedness leads to the Hell Fire, and a man may keep on telling lies till he is written before Allah, a liar. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Apostle of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The signs of a hypocrite are three: Whenever he speaks, he tells a lie, and whenever he promises, he breaks his promise; and whenever he is entrusted, he betrays (proves to be dishonest). (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Samara bin Jundub (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: I saw (in a dream), two men came to me. They said, The person, the one whose cheek you saw being torn away (from the mouth to the ear) was a liar and used to tell lies and the people would report those lies on his authority till they spread all over the world. So he will be punished like that till the Day of Resurrection. (Bukhari)

FORBIDDANCE OF PRIDE

Pride is the offspring of self-conceit, and this is the very negation of faith. Pride and faith cannot go together. Imaan inculcates in man the spirit of humility and submission to Truth. Pride is the expression of vanity, which is one of the greatest hurdles in the path of truth. The self-conceited man accepts nothing, which does not satisfy his vanity, and, therefore, he cannot be a true believer. He is a worshipper of his “own self”.

The Holy Quraan has mentioned at numerous places that it is vanity and self-conceit which stand in the way of man in accepting the Truth, e.g. it was out of pride that Iblees refused to obey the command of Almighty Allah. (2:34)

The Holy Quraan says: Is it then that whenever there came to you a Messenger (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) with what your souls desired not, you were arrogant? And some of you belied and some of you slew. (2:87)

Almighty Allah observes: Those who belie Our signs and turn away from them in arrogance, the doors of Heaven will not be opened for them, nor will they enter the Garden, until the camel pass through the eye of the needle. And thus do We reward the guilty. (7: 40)

The vain and self-conceited person not only belies the truth, but they even look down upon the people who have ties of human brotherhood with them. They consider themselves to be superior beings marked off from the rest of mankind. The Holy Quraan says: And turn not thy face away from people in contempt, not go about in the land exultingly. Surely Allah loves not any self-conceited boaster.(31: 18)

Sayyiduna Abdullah ibne Mas’ood (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “None shall enter the Fire (of Hell) who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of Imaan and none shall enter Paradise who has in his heart the weight of a mustard seed of pride.” (Muslim)

Sayyiduna Haritha Bin Wahb (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Messenger of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Shall I inform you about the people of Paradise? They comprise every obscure unimportant humble person, and if he takes Allah’s oath that he will do that thing, Allah will fulfill his oath (by doing that). Shall I inform you about the people of the Fire? They comprise every cruel, violent, proud and conceited person. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: There will be three persons whom Allah will not address on the Day of Judgment nor will He purify them, nor will He look at them; they will be under dreadful punishment. They are: (1) An aged adulterer, (2) A liar King and (3) An indigent proud person. (Muslim)

“Allah the Almighty says that Pride and Glory are My attributes; whosoever will try to share with Me any of these attributes, I will send him to Hell”. (Muslim)

The Beloved Rasool (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: On the Day of Judgment, men of false pride will be raised in the bodies of ants with their human faces. They will be fully covered with ignominy and disgrace and will be dragged towards the Hell prison called Bolis. They will be punished with the fire of fires and will be asked to drink the sweat of the inmates of Hell called the brew of insanity.(Tirmidi)

The Beloved Nabi of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: He who acts in humility for the sake of Allah, Allah raises his status; he may be small to himself but very big in the eyes of people. And the person who boasts in false pride, Allah degrades him; he may be big to himself but very low in the eyes of people; he is, to the people, lower than dog and swine. (Bay’haqi)

Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: There are three things, which lead to salvation, and there are three things, which lead to destruction. The first three things are: Fear of Allah in open and in privacy, utterance of truth in happiness and sorrow and adopt a middle path in times of need. The other three things are: To follow one’s lustful desires, to act in miserliness and, the worst of all, to be proud of one’s self. (Bay’haqi)

AVERSION AND JEALOUSY

The Holy Quraan says: And covet not the thing in which Allah  has made some of you excel others. Unto men a fortune from that which they have earned, and unto women a fortune from that which they have earned. (envy not one another) but ask Allah  of His Bounty. Lo! Allah  is ever Knower of all things. (4: 32) And says: I seek refuge in the Lord. from the evil of the envier when he envies. (113: 5)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Allah’s Messenger (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Beware of suspicion, for suspicion is the worst of false tales; and do not look for others faults and do not spy, and do not be jealous of one another, and do not desert (cut your relation with) one another, and do not hate one another; and O Allah’s worshippers! Be brothers (as Allah has ordered you). (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Anas (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Jealousy eats up virtues like fire eats up the wood and Sadaqah extinguishes sins like water extinguishes fire.” (Ibn-e-Majah)

Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) is reported to have said: “Jealousy spoils the faith like the aloe spoils the honey.”

The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: You have inherited a disease from the previous nation and that is aversion and jealousy. The jealousy shaves off the religion and not the hair. By Him Who holds the life of Muhammad (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam), you cannot enter Paradise unless you have faith and you will not become a believer unless you love each other. Should I not tell you a thing by doing which you will love each other and that is, popularize Salaam amongst yourselves. (Tirmidi)

Sayyiduna Abdullah Bin Basar (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Prophet of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Jealousy, backbiting and sorcery are not of me nor am I of them.” (Tabraani)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “Don’t be jealous of one another, nor speak ill of someone in his absence and live united like brothers”. (Bukhari)

ANGER, INSOLENCE

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported: A man said to the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam), “Advise me!” The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, “Do not become angry and furious.” The man asked the same again and again, and the Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said in each case, “Do not become angry and furious.” (Bukhari)

Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The strong person is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong person is the one who controls while in anger. (Bukhari)

The Holy Quraan says: The good deed and the evil deed are not alike. Repel the evil deed with one, which is better, then lo! He, between whom and you there was enmity (will become) as though he was a bosom friend. (41: 34) Commenting on the verse, Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Abbas (radi Allahu anhuma) says: The man who keeps patience at the time of anger and forgives his enemy of his evil doings, Allah  will keep him safe and his enemy will bow down to him as if he is the nearest and dearest friend. (Bukhari)

The Holy Quraan says: Those who avoid the greater sins and illegal sexual intercourse, and forgive when they are angry.(42:37)

And also the Statement of Almighty Allah: Those who spend (both) in prosperity and in adversity, who repress anger (3:134)

Sayyiduna Musa (alaihis salaam) said: O Allah! Who amongst Thy creatures enjoys a respectful status in Thy Court? Almighty Allah said: “He who forgives his enemy despite having the strength of taking his revenge.” (Bay’haqi)

The Glorious Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: “On the Day of Judgment, Allah shall protect him who controls his tongue, and shall withdraw punishment from him who controls his anger”. (Bay’haqi)

The Holy Prophet Muhammad (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The anger is of the Shaytaan and the Shaytaan is made of fire and the fire is extinguished by water. Therefore, whoso is in a state of anger should make ablution. (Abu Da’ood)

Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Better are those amongst you who get angry late and come to normal soon and worse are those amongst you who get angry soon and come to normal late. Keep away from anger, as it is a live fire in the heart of a man. Don’t you see that the veins in the neck get swollen and eyes become red in the state of anger? He, who feels angry, should lie down and stick to the ground.

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