FORMATION OF CHILD CHARACTER

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Know, 0 dear readers, that the training of a child’s character and conduct is of supreme importance. God entrusted the children in the hands of their parents. The heart of a child is bright like a jewel and soft like a candle and free from all impressions. It is soft like the soft clay in which any seed can grow. If he is given good training of character and conduct, he grows in that condition and acquires fortune both in this world and the next. If he goes to commit sins and lives a life of a beast he is doomed to failure and destruction. God says: ‘0 those who believe, save yourselves and your family members from Hell fire.’ As the parents save their children from the fire of the world, so they should save them also from the fire of Hell of the next world. This means that they should be given training of good conduct and character, save them from bad company and luxurious habits, delicious dishes and beautiful dresses. When a boy reaches the age of discretion, care should.be taken of his character. He gives up then something out of shame and takes up something.

He should be given the training of eating and drinking. The following are some of the rules of ea ;ng and drinking (1) Food is to be eaten with the right hand. (2)`h should be begun with the recitation of God’s name. (3) It should be taken from the side of the dish which is nearest. (4) It should not be taken before others begin to eat. (5) None should took to the ea$ng of others. (6) Food is to be chewed well and not hastily. (7) None should wipe his hand with his wearing garment. (8) Rice or bread without curry should sometimes be eaten. (9) The harms of over eating should be known. (10) Rewards of little food should be known. (11) White cloth and not garments of variegated colours should be put on and not silk cloths. 912) A boy should be directed not to join bad company. (13) He should not be allotted to mix with boys who dress luxuriantly, eat delicious foods and are haughty.

by Imam Muhammad Al Ghazzali Radi Allahu Anhu

Manners of Eating

  1. Wash hands before and after eating,
  2. Do not use towel after washing hands before eating,
  3. The hands should be dried up with a towel after washing them at the end of eating session,
  4. The hands should be washed both up to the wrist. Some people wash only one hand and some wash only the pores of the fingers. This is against the tradition of the Glorious Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam).
  5. It is better if the man himself pours water on his own hands one by one,
  6. An impure man (who needs a bath after the discharge of semen) should also wash his mouth along with both the hands. The menstruating woman need not wash her mouth before taking meals,
  7. It is advisable to begin the washing of hands from the younger members before the start of dinner. The washing of hands after the food should start from the elders,
  8. Recite Bismillah in a louder voice so that co-eaters may also follow the recitation,
  9. Don’t keep any dish over the bread,
  10. Don’t wipe off hands or knife with the bread,
  11. It is against the table manners to eat with an uncovered head or using a pillow as a support,
  12. Eating only the middle portion of bread by throwing the rest is not desirable,
  13. Start eating as soon as the bread is served, without waiting for the curry. That is why it is better to serve the bread at the end of service,
  14. Start eating from one side of the bowl or plate and not from the middle of the utensil,
  15. Start eating with the salt and finish eating with salt as it drives away seventy diseases,
  16. It is undesirable to eat things while walking on the road or standing at public places.

THE ADAAB OF EATING AND DRINKING

1. Make sure that the food or drink is Halaal.
2. Wash your hands properly first and do not forget to read the “Bismillah” before eating or drinking.
3. If you are eating with others, read the “Bismillah” aloud so that others will also remember to read it.
4. Eat or drink with your right hand.
5. Sit and eat or drink and do not do so in a buffet style where everybody stands.
6. Chew your food well and do not eat or drink in a hurry.
7. Do not blow over your food and drink.
8. Do not over-eat. One part of the stomach should be for food, one part for liquids and one for air.
9. Drink water or other permissible drinks in at least three breaks – not all in one gulp.
10. Do not stare at other peoples food or drink.
11. After eating, wash your hands properly.
12. Do not dish out a lot of food at once and waste.

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