TREATMENT OF PARENTS

There are numerous injunctions in the Holy Quraan regarding the special treatment towards one’s parents. Some of these are as follows:

  • Almighty Allah  says: And (remember) when We made a covenant with the Children of Israel (saying): Worship none save Allah (only); and be good to parents and to kindred and to orphans and the needy, and speak kindly to mankind; and establish worship and pay the poor-due. Then, after that, you slid back, save a few of you, being averse. (2:83)
  • Almighty Allah observes: They ask you (O Muhammad (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)) what they shall spend. Say: that which you spend for good (must go) to parents and near kindred and orphans and the needy and the wayfarer. And whatsoever good you do, Lo! Allah is aware of it. (2:215)
  • Almighty Allah says: And serve Allah. Ascribe no thing as partner unto Him. (Show) kindness unto parents, and unto near kindred, and orphans, and the needy, and unto the neighbour who is of kin (unto you) and the neighbour who is not of kin, and the fellow-traveller and the wayfarer and (the slaves) whom your right hands possess. Lo! Allah loves not such who are proud and boastful. (4:36)
  • Almighty Allah commands: Say: Come, I will recite unto you that which your Lord has made a sacred duty for you: that you ascribe no thing as partner unto Him and that you do good to parents,  (6:151)
  • Almighty Allah says: Your Lord has decreed that you worship none besides Him, and (that you show) kindness to parents. If one of them or both of them attain old age with you, say not Fie unto them nor repulse them, but speak unto them a gracious word. And lower unto them the wing of submission through mercy, and say: My Lord! Have mercy on them both as they did care for me when I was little. (17:23-24)
  • Almighty Allah says: We have enjoined on man kindness to parents; but if they strive to make thee join with Me that of which you have no knowledge, then obey them not. Unto Me is your return and I shall tell you what you used to do. (29:8)
  • Almighty Allah says: And We have enjoined upon man concerning his parents  His mother bears him in weakness upon weakness, and his weaning is in two years  Give thanks to Me and to your parents. Unto Me is the journeying. (31:14)
  • Almighty Allah(Azzawajal) says: And We have commanded unto man kindness toward parents. His mother bears him with reluctance, and brings him forth with reluctance, and the bearing of him and the weaning of him is thirty months, till, when he attains full strength and reaches forty years, he says: My Lord! Arouse me that I may give thanks for the favour wherewith You have favoured my parents, and me and that I may do right acceptable unto You. And be gracious unto me in the matter of my seed. Lo! I have turned to You repentant, and lo! I am of those who surrender (to You). (46: 15)

Sayyiduna Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) reported: I asked Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) which deed Allah loves most? He replied, To offer prayers at their early stated times. Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) asked, What is the next in goodness? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, To be good and dutiful to ones parents. Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) asked, What is the next in goodness? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, To participate in Jihad for Allah’s cause. Abdullah (radi Allahu anhu) added, The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) narrated to me these three things, and if I had asked more, he would have told me more. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that a man asked the Beloved Habeeb (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam): O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)! Who is more entitled to be treated with the best of companionship by me? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Your mother. The man said: Who is next? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Your mother. The man further said: Who is next? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Your mother. The man asked for the fourth time: Who is next? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Your father. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Islam has given parents that much importance that one should not go for Jihad without the permission of one’s parents. Sayyiduna Abdullah bin Omar (radi Allahu anhuma) reported: A man said to Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam), Shall I participate in Jihad? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, Are your parents living? The man said, Yes. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, Do Jihad for their benefit. (Bukhari) The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) enjoined on him to serve his parents and do his best to satisfy their needs, for this will be a substitute for fighting in Almighty Allah cause.

Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn-e-Omar (radi Allahu anhuma) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The most grateful is he who treats well the friends of his father in his absence. (Muslim)

Sayyidah Asma Bint Abu-Bakr (radi Allahu anha) reported: My mother, who was pagan, came with her father during the period of peace pact between the Muslims and the Quraish infidels. I went to seek the advice of Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) saying, My mother has arrived and she is hoping for my favour. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said, Yes, be good to your mother. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Sayyiduna Mughirah (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Allah has forbidden the following things for you: To disobey your mothers, to bury the female child alive, to refuse the repayment to your creditors. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Sayyiduna Abdullah Ibn-e-Amr (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Nabi of Allah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: It is one of the greatest sins that a man should curse his parents. The people asked: O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)! How can a man curse his own parents? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: When a man abuses the father of another man and the latter abuse the father of the former and abuses his mother. (Bukhari, Muslim)

Sayyiduna Abdullah Bin Amr (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: The pleasure of Allah lies in the pleasure of father, and the displeasure of Allah is in the displeasure of father. (Tirmidi)

Sayyiduna Abu Umaamah (radi Allahu anhu) reported that a companion asked the Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam): O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)! What are the rights of parents to their sons? The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Both are like Heaven and Hell for you. (Ibn-e-Majah) This means the pleasure of parents would bring the reward of the Heaven and their displeasure will result into the torment of Hell.

Sayyiduna Mu’awiyah Bin Jahemah (radi Allahu anhu) reported that his father called on the Holy Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) and said: O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)! I wish to go for Jihad and I have come to you to take your advice�. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) asked: Do you have a mother? He said: Yes. The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Make her service obligatory for yourself as the Heaven is by the side of her feet. (Nisaai)

Sayyiduna Mughirah (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Beloved Habeeb (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Allah(Azzawajal) has forbidden you

  1. to be undutiful to your mothers,
  2. to withhold what you should give, or
  3. demand what you do not deserve, and
  4. to bury your daughters alive.

Allah(Azzawajal) has disliked that

  1. you talk too much about others,

  2. ask too many questions in religion, or

  3. waste your property. (Bukhari)

TREATING THE NEIGHBOURS

It is the bounden duty of every Muslim to refrain from saying anything or doing anything, which may be a source of trouble to his neighbour. Islam’s approach to life is not non-social. Islam no doubt makes man stand in the presence of the Rabb as an individual, but he is never isolated from other men. The distress which vexes him is not his own only; it is that of his brethren as well; the redemption for which he longs for is also the redemption of his people, his fellow-believers, nay, the entire humanity. It is the duty of a Muslim not only to lead a peaceful life himself, but also to create a social atmosphere where every man feels secure from the tyranny of the oppressors.

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: He will not enter Paradise whose neighbour is not secure from his wrongful conduct. (Muslim) The term wrongful conduct covers all injurious treatments and malevolent or mischievous dispositions.

Sayyidah Ayesha (radi Allahu anha) reported that the Beloved Habeeb (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Sayyiduna Jibra’eel (alaihis salaam) continued to recommend me about treating the neighbours kindly and politely, so much so that I thought he would order me to make them as my heirs. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abu Shuraih (radi Allahu anhu) reported that Sayyiduna Rasoolullah (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! By Allah, he does not believe! It was said: Who is that, O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)? He said: That person whose neighbour does not feel safe from his evil. (Bukhari)

Sayyiduna Abu Hurayra (radi Allahu anhu) reported that the Glorious Prophet of Islam (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) said: Anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should not harm his neighbour, and anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should entertain his guest generously and anybody who believes in Allah and the Last Day should talk what is good or keep quiet (i.e. abstain from all kinds of evil and dirty talk). (Bukhari)

Sayyidah Ayesha (radi Allahu anha) reported: I said, O Allah’s Apostle (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam)! I have two neighbours. To whom shall I send my gifts? He said, To the one whose gate is nearer to you. (Bukhari)

The Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) himself was ready to forego his own comforts for the sake of his neighbours. His treatment towards his close neighbours and the Ashaab-e-Suffah was very cordial, friendly and sympathetic. Once Sayyiduna Ali (radi Allahu anhu) asked the Holy Prophet (sallal laahu alaihi wasallam) for a maidservant for Sayyidah Fatima (radi Allahu anha), his daughter. He said: As yet, the companions of Suffah have not been provided for.

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